peter
“One of the biggest psychological issues with me was that I empowered every mistake I made, and I made it a huge deal. From time to time I had to remind myself that everybody makes mistakes, and nobody is perfect. But then you turn on your TV or look at the magazines and you see everything and everybody is so perfect. That everyone around you is becoming an adult and they’re all driving cars and having babies and you think their life is amazing and perfect and you look at yourself and ask, what the hell am I doing? Why can’t I be just like them? Why can’t I be normal? But I’ll tell you what! Everybody has their own questions. Nobody knows everything and nobody is perfect. The truth is that once you accept that it’s okay not knowing everything, and accept life with it’s imperfections, I think you become happier and truer to yourself. That was the realization what I got when I moved to Ireland. By the time I left Brazil I didn’t speak to my parents for a very long time. They’re against gay people and so they expelled me from the family. For me to accept that they were just small minded wasn’t easy. I had to come to the opposite side of the globe to experience and understand that it’s only culture and only a kind of knowledge that’s been affected by time, politics and religion. Back then I didn’t have this knowledge. I was growing up thinking I was weird, that nobody likes me, that I was a nightmare for my parents, and ‘Oh my god I’m going to burn in hell’ but now I realized they didn’t know shit! I would like to send my kisses to them and tell them I’m doing great, I’m married to a beautiful Irish girl and have never been happier with all my imperfections!”