Then you have me: an art student with focus deficit disorder. I like to test… to bend the rules

“I had a lot of fights at home growing up. I was always a little different and most of the times it felt like me versus my whole family. I have very strict parents and my only sister is a straight A student. She is doing a PhD in astrophysics. She’s very smart – a rule follower. In the eyes of strict parents, she is a dream child. Then you have me: an art student with focus deficit disorder. I like to test… to bend the rules. I feel like parents always have a little unspoken competition between their children, and for me growing up I always felt I was a huge disappointment in everything I did. So, I went into the rebellious phrase with a full swing. It was new territory for them as they never had to face those issues with my sister. Their reaction was to put everything on lockdown, instead of just communicating and helping me to try figure out things. They ignored all my problems and expected me to do what I was told. It just got to a point where they invaded my privacy. I mean, I wasn’t an angel, but they use to search through my things – go through the messages on my phone. I couldn’t even lock the door to my room. That mentality created a rift between me and my family, but especially between me and my mom. She was always the ‘iron fist’ in the house. I don’t think she knows how much it hurt me. She has never apologised to me for anything, even if it was completely obvious that she made a mistake. I’m really hoping to turn things around, and I know it could be so easy with only a few steps from both sides, but I guess the past made me as stubborn as they are…”